Draw a circle. This circle is your life. Draw a slightly smaller circle inside of the first circle. It's okay if the edges touch in some places. This circle is your grief.
Now you can see that your grief almost totally fills your life. There isn't room for anything else. Your life and your grief are one.
Now draw another circle the same size as your grief circle. This circle is still your grief. Draw a larger circle around it. This is your life in the future. Your grief is still there, still the same size, but now there is space around it for other aspects of your life. As time goes on, the circle of your life grows and includes many other things, but your grief remains. It doesn't go away. It doesn't get smaller. But now there is room for other things and you are not always focused on the grief. You can laugh at a joke, go to a party, get a new job, maybe have living children, but your circle of grief is still there.
I have been married for 10 years to my high school sweetheart and am the mother of 5 beautiful children...an 8 year old son and triplet boys who just turned 4. Madeline, our only daughter, went to be with Jesus on June 8, 2007. Madeline had Trisomy 18 and lived 12 precious hours. We miss her so much but know we will see her again in heaven.